The CARIAD Process

CARIAD is a radical path of self-responsibility that requires us to recognise that everything that life throws at us is for our healing. To be able to pause in our day and realise that what we experience is an opportunity for bringing us into peace or taking us back into the matrix of beliefs and stories. Do we love ourselves enough to choose peace in every moment? Our experience is a direct reflection of the choices we make.

SURVIVING GRIEF and LOSS

For this is exactly the practice that I adopted to survive the sudden and unexpected death of my husband in February 2024.  I knew that the only way to get through the heartbreak and pain was to focus on expanding the love that I held for Mark, within my own heart.  Holding that love frequency allowed us to remain connected, held in an endless field of compassion; 

As Rumi says: ' Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along."

I was meeting my husband in a bandwidth of love, far bigger than both of us. This brought calm and deep peace to my body, which allowed me to rest.

HOW the LETTERS of CARIAD teach us to greet the love within

COMPASSION:  First we have to feel the frequency of love, thinking of a loved one, a pet, a beautiful sunset, whatever you focus upon to awaken this frequency within your own heart and body.

AROUSAL: We all know the feeling of shock, an unexpected noise or an incident which makes you jump. When this pulsing energy fills our bodies, how do we react? The most important element is not what happened but what we have made it mean. Notice your habitual patterns of response are they based on excitement or fear? 

RAS or RETICULAR ACTIVATING SYSTEM  This tiny part of the brain stem acts as a filter both consciously and unconsciously, helping us filter millions of bits of information.  Looking to buy a blue car?  Notice how you then, see them everywhere, as this is your point of focus. We can train the RAS to work for us by choosing love and peace.

INTUITION  all of us have our own 'inner tutor' that is ready to guide us when we get quiet enough to listen.  What is the body telling us? Soul wisdom is whispering all of the time but can we get out of our own way to hear this inner voice?

ALIGNMENT allowing spaciousness and stillness within the mind and body, we give ourselves an opportunity to make choices in every moment.  I can choose to keep believing certain beliefs...e.g. I will never be good enough.. but how is this working out?  Maybe by digging deeper we can find the hurt within and bring loving acceptance to ourselves.

DIVINE because as we hold loving acceptance for ourselves, we are allowing our child-like innocence to emerge.  Being kind and gentle with bow we feel, reveals deeper wisdom, beyond the hurt and pain.

The CARIAD journey leads to a deeper wisdom, opening the heart and connecting us all to a network of sacred intelligence allowing you to live your life in love and abundance.